—- Short girls FTW! ;)
—- Short girls FTW! ;)
—- & this is why I’m learning to accept things as being just what they are &
*credits to mikecartess.tumblr.com for posting the article
The one that got away - (Mark J. Macapagal, The Manila Times, 2003)
In your life, you’ll make note of a lot of people. Ones with whom you shared something special and ones who will always mean something. There’s the one you first kissed, the one you first loved, the one you lost your virginity to, the one you put on a pedestal, the one you’re with…and the one that got away.
Who is the one that got away? I guess it’s that person with whom everything was great, everything was perfect, but the timing was just wrong. There was no fault in the person nor flaw in the chemistry, but the cards just didn’t fall the right way, I suppose.
I believe in the fact that ending up with someone, finding a longtime partner that is, does not lie merely in the other person. I can actually argue that an equal part, or maybe even the greater part, has to do with the matter of timing. It has to do with you being ready to settle down and commit to someone in a way that goes beyond the little niceties of giddy romance.
How often have you gone through it without even realizing it? When you’re not ready to commit in that mature manner, it doesn’t matter who you’re with, it just doesn’t work. Small problems become big; inconsequential become deal breakers simply because you’re not ready and it shows. It’s not that you and the person you’re with are no good; it’s just that it’s not yet right, and little things become the flashpoint of that fact.
Then one day you’re ready. You really are. And when this happens you’ll be ready to settle down with someone. He or she may not be the most perfect, they might not be the brightest star of romance to ever have burned in your life, but it’ll work because you’re ready. It’ll work because it’s the right time and you’ll make it work. And it’ll make sense, it really will.
So that day comes when you’re finally making sense of things, and you find yourself to be a different person. Things are different, your approach is different, you finally understand who you are and what you want and you’ve become ready because the time has truly arrived. And mind you, there’s no telling when this day will come. Hopefully, you’re single or be in a long-term relationship, or be married with three kids…it doesn’t matter. All you know is that you have changed. And for some reason, the one that got away, is the first person you think about.
You’ll think about them because you’ll wonder, “What if they were here today?” , “What if we were together now, with me as I am and not as I was?” .The one that got away is– the biggest “What if?” you’ll have in your life.
If you’re married, you’ll just have to accept the fact that the one that got away, got away. Believe me, no matter how fairy tale you think your marriage is, this can happen to the best of us. But hopefully you’re mature enough to realize that you’re already with the one you’re with and this is just another test of your commitment, one which will just strengthen your marriage when you get past it. Sure, you’ll think about him/her every so often, but it’s alright. It’s never nice to live with a “might have been,” but it happens.
Maybe the one that got away is the one who’s already married. In which case it’s the same thing. You just have to accept and know that your memories of that person will probably bring a nice little smile to your lips in the future when you’re old and gray and reminiscing.
But if neither of that is the case, then it’s different. What do you do if it’s not yet too late? Simple –find him or find her. The very existence of a “one that got away” means that you’ll always wonder…what if you got that one? Ask him out to coffee. Ask her out to a movie. It doesn’t matter if you’ve dropped in from out of nowhere. You’d be surprised, you just might be “the one that got away” as well for the person who is your “the one that got away.” You might drop in from out of nowhere and it won’t make a difference. If the timing is finally right, it’ll all just fall into place somehow. It would be a great feeling in the end, to be able to say to someone, “Hey you, you’re the one that almost got away.”
—- Very interesting article. Makes alot of sense. I used to always wonder why me & him weren’t together yet after almost 4 years of knowing each other, but I realize that it’s all about timing. It will all fall into place when the time is right.
Vanilla bubble tea (by poppet with a camera)
—- This makes me miss Taro Boba. It’s been so long since I’ve had some. Waaaahh! D;
—- I do, I do, I do-oooooo! Thrift Stores or “Treasure Troves” (as I’d like to call them), never disappoint. ♥
This is exactly how I felt during & after the conversation I had last night. I haven’t cried like that in a long time. I made the decision to walk away from the person I loved most outside of my family. Why? Because I thought walking away would prevent me from getting hurt. I’ve never been one to give up on love. Was always the one who said I’d rather know & fail than to go on with my life asking “What if?” & not knowing what could’ve been. I can’t believe I gave up all because I was scared. I don’t know where that changed. I guess I’m so scared that someday I might actually get the very thing I’ve wanted for so long, only to lose it. So my solution was to just give up & walk away? Now that I think about it, it makes absolutely no sense. All the times I wanted to give up & walk away, he still had faith in us. He still believes we’re meant for each other. I was more worried about if I was waiting in vain, while on the other hand, he was worried about becoming a better man for ME. He deserves someone better who won’t give up on him. Someone who’ll see the good instead of worrying about the bad & what might happen. I know the girl who will settle down with him will be very lucky & happy. He’s an amazing guy. I guess it was too late when I realized it.
I will always love Tony. I will always care about him. That will NEVER change.
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"I’m all up under him like it’s cold, winter time!
All up in the kitchen in my heels, dinner time!” ;)