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The One That Got Away

nikkiki:

*credits to mikecartess.tumblr.com for posting the article

The one that got away - (Mark J. Macapagal, The Manila Times, 2003)

In your life, you’ll make note of a lot of people. Ones with whom you shared something special and ones who will always mean something. There’s the one you first kissed, the one you first loved, the one you lost your virginity to, the one you put on a pedestal, the one you’re with…and the one that got away.

Who is the one that got away? I guess it’s that person with whom everything was great, everything was perfect, but the timing was just wrong. There was no fault in the person nor flaw in the chemistry, but the cards just didn’t fall the right way, I suppose.

I believe in the fact that ending up with someone, finding a longtime partner that is, does not lie merely in the other person. I can actually argue that an equal part, or maybe even the greater part, has to do with the matter of timing. It has to do with you being ready to settle down and commit to someone in a way that goes beyond the little niceties of giddy romance.

How often have you gone through it without even realizing it? When you’re not ready to commit in that mature manner, it doesn’t matter who you’re with, it just doesn’t work. Small problems become big; inconsequential become deal breakers simply because you’re not ready and it shows. It’s not that you and the person you’re with are no good; it’s just that it’s not yet right, and little things become the flashpoint of that fact.

Then one day you’re ready. You really are. And when this happens you’ll be ready to settle down with someone. He or she may not be the most perfect, they might not be the brightest star of romance to ever have burned in your life, but it’ll work because you’re ready. It’ll work because it’s the right time and you’ll make it work. And it’ll make sense, it really will.

So that day comes when you’re finally making sense of things, and you find yourself to be a different person. Things are different, your approach is different, you finally understand who you are and what you want and you’ve become ready because the time has truly arrived. And mind you, there’s no telling when this day will come. Hopefully, you’re single or be in a long-term relationship, or be married with three kids…it doesn’t matter. All you know is that you have changed. And for some reason, the one that got away, is the first person you think about.

You’ll think about them because you’ll wonder, “What if they were here today?” , “What if we were together now, with me as I am and not as I was?” .The one that got away is– the biggest “What if?” you’ll have in your life.

If you’re married, you’ll just have to accept the fact that the one that got away, got away. Believe me, no matter how fairy tale you think your marriage is, this can happen to the best of us. But hopefully you’re mature enough to realize that you’re already with the one you’re with and this is just another test of your commitment, one which will just strengthen your marriage when you get past it. Sure, you’ll think about him/her every so often, but it’s alright. It’s never nice to live with a “might have been,” but it happens.

Maybe the one that got away is the one who’s already married. In which case it’s the same thing. You just have to accept and know that your memories of that person will probably bring a nice little smile to your lips in the future when you’re old and gray and reminiscing.

But if neither of that is the case, then it’s different. What do you do if it’s not yet too late? Simple –find him or find her. The very existence of a “one that got away” means that you’ll always wonder…what if you got that one? Ask him out to coffee. Ask her out to a movie. It doesn’t matter if you’ve dropped in from out of nowhere. You’d be surprised, you just might be “the one that got away” as well for the person who is your “the one that got away.” You might drop in from out of nowhere and it won’t make a difference. If the timing is finally right, it’ll all just fall into place somehow. It would be a great feeling in the end, to be able to say to someone, “Hey you, you’re the one that almost got away.”

—- Very interesting article. Makes alot of sense. I used to always wonder why me & him weren’t together yet after almost 4 years of knowing each other, but I realize that it’s all about timing. It will all fall into place when the time is right.

—- Gotta say this everyday. 

—- Gotta say this everyday. 

B. Scott Says Stop Convincing People Of Shit!

—- This is one of my fave B. Scott vids. He always speaks the truth!

  • " I have a situation where, you know, I am liking someone & I always feel like I gotta keep reminding them to choose me, to pick me. It’s NO convincing! We’re seeing you miss out on the person you are supposed to be with, looking or trying to convince that person that’s really looking at somebody else. Focus on the energy & the type of person you want in your life. Quit convincing people today. Quit convincing them!!!” 

(Source: saucyfbaby)

"There are no mistakes. The events we bring upon ourselves, no matter how unpleasant, are necessary in order to learn what we need to learn; whatever steps we take, they’re necessary to reach the places we’ve chosen to go."

—- Richard Bach, best-selling American writer

(Source: saucyfbaby)

Someone Else.
  • If someone doesn’t want you back, someone else will need you.
  • If someone thinks you’re boring, someone else will think you’re amazing.
  • If someone is too busy for you, someone else is willing to make time for you.
  • If someone ignores you, someone else is willing to pay attention.
  • If someone thinks you’re not good enough, someone else thinks you’re more than good enough.
  • If someone doesn’t feel the same way, someone else is waiting for you to feel the same way for them.

—- Real shit!

(Source: teddietedeezy, via tinsiaotong)

"To love at all is to be vulnerable. Love anything, and your heart will certainly be wrung and possibly broken. If you want to make sure of keeping it intact, you must give your heart to no one, not even to an animal. Wrap it carefully round with hobbies and little luxuries; avoid all entanglements; lock it up safe in the casket or coffin of your selfishness. But in that casket- safe, dark, motionless, airless—it will change. It will not be broken; it will become unbreakable, impenetrable, irredeemable."

- C.S. Lewis

In my opinion, if you’re not open to love, then how do you expect it to find you? People need to learn to take risks when it comes to love. Trust me, knowing that it would or wouldn’t work out between you & someone is much better than not knowing & having to wonder “What if?” for the rest of your life.

(Source: saucyfbaby)

"Love comes when manipulation stops; when you think more about the other person than about his or her reactions to you. When you dare to reveal yourself fully. When you dare to be vulnerable."

- Joyce Brothers, is an American psychologist and advice columnist.

(Source: saucyfbaby)

"We are not held back by the love we didn’t receive in the past, but by the love we’re not extending in the present."

—- Marianne Williamson, best-selling author & speaker

(Source: saucyfbaby)


(Source: yellowstardrea)

—- Live without pretending, Love without depending, Listen without defending, Speak without offending.

—- Live without pretending, Love without depending, Listen without defending, Speak without offending.

Only once in your life, I truly believe, you find someone who can completely turn your world around. You tell them things that you’ve never shared with another soul and they absorb everything you say and actually want to hear more. You share hopes for the future, dreams that will never come true, goals that were never achieved and the many disappointments life has thrown at you. When something wonderful happens, you can’t wait to tell them about it, knowing they will share in your excitement. Never do they hurt your feelings or make you feel like you are not good enough, but rather they build you up and show you the things about yourself that make you special and even beautiful. You find strength in knowing you have a true friend and possibly a soul mate who will remain loyal to the end. Life seems completely different, exciting and worthwhile. Your only hope and security is in knowing that they are a part of your life.

Bob Marley (via aplacecalledfreedom)

—- ♥

(via bolivianaconrumbo)

"Things don’t go wrong and break your heart so you can become bitter and give up. They happen to break you down and build you up so you can be all that you were intended to be."

— Charles “Tremendous” Jones, is a publisher, motivator and humorist

(Source: saucyfbaby)

jominguez:

I was shooting a scene in my new film, No Strings Attached,  in which I say to Natalie Portman,

“If you miss me. you can’t text, you can’t email, you can’t post it on my Facebook wall. If you really miss me, you come and see me.” 

I began to think of all of the billions of intimate exchanges sent daily via fingers and screens, bouncing between satellites and servers. With all this texting, emailing, and social networking, I started wondering, are we all becoming so in touch with one another that we are in danger of losing touch?
It used to be that boy met girl and they exchanged phone numbers. Anticipation built. They imagined the entire relationship before a call ever happened. The phone rang. Hearts pounded. “Hello?” Followed by a conversation that lasted two hours but felt like two minutes and would be examined with friends for two weeks. If all went well, a date was arranged. That was then.
Now we exchange numbers but text instead of calling because it mitigates the risks of early failure and eliminates those deafening moments of silence. Now anticipation builds. Bdoop. “It was NICE meeting u” Both sides overanalyze every word. We talk to a friend, an impromptu Cyrano: “He wrote nice in all caps. What does that mean? What do I write back?” Then we write a response and delete it 10 times before sending a message that will appear 2 care, but not 2 much. If all goes well, a date will be arranged.
Whether you like it or not, the digital age has produced a new format for modern romance, and natural selection may be favoring the quick-thumbed quip peddler over the confident, ice-breaking alpha male. Or maybe we are hiding behind the cloak of digital text and spell-check to present superior versions of ourselves while using these less intimate forms of communication to accelerate the courting process. So what’s it really good for?
There is some argument about who actually invented text messaging, but I think it’s safe to say it was a man. Multiple studies have shown that the average man uses about half as many words per day as women, thus text messaging. It eliminates hellos and goodbyes and cuts right to the chase. Now, if that’s not male behavior, I don’t know what is. It’s also great for passing notes. there is something fun about sharing secrets with your date while in the company of others. think of texting as a modern whisper in your lover’s car.
Sending sweet nothings on Twitter or Facebook is also fun. in some ways, it’s no different than sending flowers to the office: You are declaring your love for everyone to see. Who doesn’t like to be publicly adored. Just remember that what you post is out there and there’s some stuff you can’t un-see.  But the reality is that we communicate with every part of our being, and there are times when we must use it all. When someone needs us, he or she needs all of us. There’s no text that can replace a loving touch when someone we love is hurting.
We haven’t lost romance in the digital age, but we may be neglecting it. In doing so, antiquated art forms are taking on new importance. The power of a hand-written letter is greater than ever. It’s personal and deliberate means more than an email or text ever will. It has a unique scent. It requires deciphering. But, most important, it’s flawed There are errors in handwriting, punctuation, grammar, and spelling that show our vulnerability. And vulnerability is the essence of romance. It’s the art of being uncalculated, the willingness to look foolish, the courage to say,

“This is me, and I’m interested in you enough to show you my flaws with the hope that you may embrace me for all that I am but, more importantly, all that I am not.”

- Ashton Kutcher (Source)

jominguez:

I was shooting a scene in my new film, No Strings Attached, in which I say to Natalie Portman,

“If you miss me. you can’t text, you can’t email, you can’t post it on my Facebook wall. If you really miss me, you come and see me.”

I began to think of all of the billions of intimate exchanges sent daily via fingers and screens, bouncing between satellites and servers. With all this texting, emailing, and social networking, I started wondering, are we all becoming so in touch with one another that we are in danger of losing touch?

It used to be that boy met girl and they exchanged phone numbers. Anticipation built. They imagined the entire relationship before a call ever happened. The phone rang. Hearts pounded. “Hello?” Followed by a conversation that lasted two hours but felt like two minutes and would be examined with friends for two weeks. If all went well, a date was arranged. That was then.

Now we exchange numbers but text instead of calling because it mitigates the risks of early failure and eliminates those deafening moments of silence. Now anticipation builds. Bdoop. “It was NICE meeting u” Both sides overanalyze every word. We talk to a friend, an impromptu Cyrano: “He wrote nice in all caps. What does that mean? What do I write back?” Then we write a response and delete it 10 times before sending a message that will appear 2 care, but not 2 much. If all goes well, a date will be arranged.

Whether you like it or not, the digital age has produced a new format for modern romance, and natural selection may be favoring the quick-thumbed quip peddler over the confident, ice-breaking alpha male. Or maybe we are hiding behind the cloak of digital text and spell-check to present superior versions of ourselves while using these less intimate forms of communication to accelerate the courting process. So what’s it really good for?

There is some argument about who actually invented text messaging, but I think it’s safe to say it was a man. Multiple studies have shown that the average man uses about half as many words per day as women, thus text messaging. It eliminates hellos and goodbyes and cuts right to the chase. Now, if that’s not male behavior, I don’t know what is. It’s also great for passing notes. there is something fun about sharing secrets with your date while in the company of others. think of texting as a modern whisper in your lover’s car.

Sending sweet nothings on Twitter or Facebook is also fun. in some ways, it’s no different than sending flowers to the office: You are declaring your love for everyone to see. Who doesn’t like to be publicly adored. Just remember that what you post is out there and there’s some stuff you can’t un-see. But the reality is that we communicate with every part of our being, and there are times when we must use it all. When someone needs us, he or she needs all of us. There’s no text that can replace a loving touch when someone we love is hurting.

We haven’t lost romance in the digital age, but we may be neglecting it. In doing so, antiquated art forms are taking on new importance. The power of a hand-written letter is greater than ever. It’s personal and deliberate means more than an email or text ever will. It has a unique scent. It requires deciphering. But, most important, it’s flawed There are errors in handwriting, punctuation, grammar, and spelling that show our vulnerability. And vulnerability is the essence of romance. It’s the art of being uncalculated, the willingness to look foolish, the courage to say,

“This is me, and I’m interested in you enough to show you my flaws with the hope that you may embrace me for all that I am but, more importantly, all that I am not.”

- Ashton Kutcher (Source)

(Source: kaaaaren-ang, via exhivisions)

jeremypassion:

Baby, our love is not based on what other people say..Only ourselves and God know the truth…

Hey Everyone, This is an original piece I wrote for Claire during the days we were still in a long distance relationship. I’m thankful that she’s here in San Francisco now, we’ve gone a long way! I love you babe and I’m proud of us. Thanks for watching everyone!

in Love,
<3 Jeremy Passion

WWW.JEREMYPASSION.COM
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I Don’t Care
written and composed by Jeremy Passion Manongdo

Chillen here with the guys 
On a Saturday night
They talkin’ bout hittin’ the club
Tryna pick something up
So I said “I’ma have to decline.”
They asked for reasons why
I don’t wanna have fun tonight.
They said J, you deserve a break.
But they don’t underestand
I wanna be a faithful man to my girl.

If only they knew that
I’m a changed man
I’m not who I was before
Finally found love
Though you’re so far away
You are worth waiting for.

chorus:
I don’t care the miles that stand between us
Don’t care if time starts pushing through
Don’t care what the people think about us
I’m gonna find my way to you
Cuz darlin’ we’re stronger. Troopers
Not your average kind of love
Bring me the weather
Together, our love is strong enough

See people be talkin’ bout us
Saying that we would never make it from the start
But while everyone else saw the name and the fame
You only saw my heart
You are the reason I’m inspired
Nothing else mattered before you came
Where would we be if we had listened
To what other people say

If only they knew that
What we have is real
It’s not like the loves before
Finally found love 
Though you’re so far away
You are worth waiting for

chorus:
I don’t care the miles that stand between us
Don’t care if time starts pushing through
Don’t care what the people think about us
I’m gonna find my way to you
Cuz darlin’ we’re stronger. Troopers
Not your average kind of love
Bring me the weather
Together, our love is strong enough

Though there are times we can’t find
Understanding or peace of mind
I’m just so glad that these times are shared with you
Only you
Baby our love is not based on what other people say
Only ourselves and God know the truth

chorus

& Jeremy Passion delivers another original classic. Amaaaaazing.

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